Sunday, August 05, 2012

Realizing That No One Really Cares

The sooner that you learn that no one cares the better off you will be.  When I say no one cares, it doesn’t mean about you or your well-being but you and your dreams.  It applies to entrepreneurs.  It doesn’t apply to Olympic athletes.  It doesn’t apply to help you need for your 9 to 5 job, if you’re sick, or if your car breaks down.  It applies specifically to your entrepreneurial vision.  

No one cares because they can’t see what you see.  If they could, they wouldn’t be slaving away at a job that they hate every day of their lives.  If they cared, they would be trying to help you, asking how things are going, and calling you up with suggestions. 
It’s not their fault.  It doesn’t’ mean they don’t love you, it’s just that your dream is not tangible to them.  

If you were working toward a promotion at your 9to5, that’s tangible.  As a society we are conditioned to that behavior.  Work hard and get a crappy 5% raise, maybe 7% or 2% in this economy.  People believe that will happen.  They are trained to work more hours and you will most likely get a raise.  We are even trained that 5% is good.  There is no problem getting help to support that. 
However, if it’s a situation that society is not conditioned to, like starting your own business…most people don’t get it, and some people who do just want to see you fail.  HARSH, but true. 
If you are creating a website of some sort, don’t expect anyone to be on board until it takes off and start bringing in revenue.  If you are starting a brick and mortar, don’t expect anyone to pay attention until you land a client, get a big check or do something drastic like Mortgage the house to pay for your first years expenses.  Oh…I bet people are all ears now.  

If you think I’m joking, let me prove it to you.  Go right now to facebook and write about what you are currently working on and see how many people send you something encouraging.  Maybe 1 or 2 if you are lucky.  Then wait a few hours and post a Meme (a funny viral picture), half of your friends will be hitting like, and sharing that mess making all types of dumb comments.    You get more support from a shaved cat, then you launching your own enterprise.  

Again, on facebook if you are launching a website and you write, “Hey guys, I’m launching my new site today, check it out”.  You might get 10 or 15 hits.  But if you put, “Wow, just stumbled on to this site and it’s off the hook!”.  If there is no clear association to you and people realize that you are not benefiting from it, then they will visit it, bookmark it, and visit that site every day. 
Believe it or not, subconsciously people won’t visit your site because they don’t want to see you get ahead.  They don’t even realize that they are doing it.  SCAREY! 

The reason for this post is to help you focus more and conserve energy.  As a hustler you need everything you can muster to sustain your work load and keep yourself focused.  If you are working a full time 9to5 then you need your energy even more.   This means you can’t waste energy trying to convince and prove those around you how good your idea is.   How hard you’re working.  Just how things are coming along.  You have to stop wasting time trying to rationalize to them, why you need to work, or how much work is left to be done.  They won’t understand because they don’t want to understand. 
Those who do understand, keep them close, and use them as fuel.  Keep them updated on your milestones and progress.  Value those people, because they are rare and they care.  

This is a doozy!  This is easily the 2nd biggest problem for an entrepreneur.  Money is first, significant other ‘s /family support is 2nd.  If you significant other gets your vision, believes in you and your goals whole heartedly, then you already have a distinct advantage.  You have your Michelle Obama and are ready to take over the world.  

If not, my first suggestion is to try to bring them on board.  Tell them and show them what you are working on, and explain your long term vision and how it will benefit you, him or her, and your kids.  Try again and again.  

If they can’t see the vision, my advice is to stop talking about it as much.  If your wife or husband sees your entrepreneurial endeavors aka “Your Hustle” as “time away from the family” or “you getting to do what you want to do”, you “Playing Games”

If he or she understood how serious this was, and how if it worked out, it would benefit the whole family they would be on board.  There would be no convincing.  When the topic of support is brought up you wouldn't hear things like,  “Well I don’t say anything when you sit on the computer for hours”.  That’s called tolerating.  Tolerating and supporting are not the same thing.  

Support is when you are working and they ask if you need anything.  They ask if you are hungry, they ask if there is something that you can do to help.  Supporting is not whining for them to come to bed, complaining that you don’t get to fall asleep next to them.  That is called making them choose between you and their dream.  

Do what I’ve done, simply cut them out.  Until you get to a point where they understand your vision and how big it is, don’t talk about.  It will only drive a wedge in between you two.  You want more then anyone in the world for this person to believe in you and be on board but it can’t happen so don’t force it.  

It will be hard at first because this is all you are about.  You are sleeping, eating , sh@#tting your dreams and you can’t share them.  But you will see that once you refrain from talking about it, and just quietly executing your mission, they will then grow interested.  Then you only give them a little.  Play that game all the way to the bank.

I’m speaking from experience.  Ever since I stopped talking about my projects with my fiance’ we have found peace.  Once she sees how much money everything is earning she will then believe and start to support instead of tolerate.  Then I will be stronger then ever.  

Thursday, February 02, 2012

Striving in Arnold's World is the Key to Success

A huge part of your success, in becoming a future millionaire will be your ability to Separate the Real World from Arnold’s World. 


Arnold’s World is a place that I have just recently entered.  A reader of this blog Deuce Carter has a Tumbler site with some interesting motivational pictures. 
One of them is the Screen saver below of Arnold Schwarzenegger.  Despite his recent issues – here is a man that has conquered everything he’s ever tried.  Physically, mentally and politically.  A man who barely spoke English ended up being the Governor of this country’s largest State.  In Arnold’s World physical & mental perfection along with financial freedom were mandatory.  Once I removed my computer background and replaced it with Arnold – I conceptually entered Arnold’s World. 

In order to stay motivated, you must separate Arnold’s World from the Real World. 

Living in  – Arnold’s World

If you are doing what it takes to push yourself to the next level, you should feel special, but unfortunately that “specialness” won’t translate to the real world until you have reached real world success.   Confused?

In the Arnold World people are rated on a different scale.  People are rated on their ability to push themselves to the limit in all aspects of their lives.  In Arnold’s World, when a person gets home from their 9 to 5, they are expected to further their education, take care of themselves physically and strive for financial Freedom.  Those are the expectations.  In fact, that should be the criteria for reading this blog. 

Let’s list those again shall we: AWE (Arnold’s World Expectations)

1.       Further their education
By no means does this mean grad school, college etc.  This could mean learning about your business, reading forums, magazines, anything that will make you better at whatever you will end up doing for your financial freedom.  Learning about your craft.  

2.       Take Care of yourself physically
This doesn’t mean hitting the gym every day, but it does mean doing some physical activity a few times a week, and eating healthy.  A healthy body goes hand in hand with a healthy mind. 

3.       The Strive for financial freedom. 
Basically working to be a future millionaire.  That’s why we are here right?  Google the term “Future Millionaire”? Guess who comes up in the number two spot in the search results???
If you are here, you are at the right place because there is no place on the internet where the struggle is understood better then here.  Period. 

You can remember the three expectations by simply keeping in mind: Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.


To be great in the Arnold World you are doing items 1 thru 3 to the best of your ability, until you reach success.  Constant effort over time!  Now let’s compare yourself to your fat, out of shape co worker.  You and him are in the little kitchenette area at work – you know that annoying little place with the microwave and toaster oven, and over packed refrigerator with everyone’s labeled lunch bags.  You are there heating up vegetables and chicken and your co-worker is heating up a left over cheesesteak and fries.  

When he went home last night, he watched 4 hours of TV, ordered 2 cheesesteaks from the delivery joint down the street, talked on the phone to his buddy about the weekend for an hour and then played Star Wars Old Republic for 3 hours and then crashed for the night.  

When you got home last night, you hit the gym, showered, cooked dinner for yourself and made lunch for today.  Then you started working on your main project until about 10:00.  Then you attended a Webinar for an hour, and then Skyped with your programmers in India until 2:00 AM. 

In Arnold’s World – you are like the Mayor!  You are revered because you are able to stay focused, eat right, hit the gym and survive on almost no sleep.  Your co-worker is seen as a lazy piece of crap.  He’s the equivalent to someone who is unemployed, on welfare and refuses to even look for a job, because welfare is covering his bills.  He’s everything that you Arnold’s World hates!

If you translate that into the real world – You and your co-worker are even.  Huh?  Doesn’t sound fair does it.  Although you accomplished a lot last night, you are not earning money with your projects.  In fact you are losing money because you are investing in time and resources.  Your co-worker is shoving money without thinking in his 401 K.  He drives a better car then  you, and hangs out after work with the rest of your co-workers so in fact, his status is higher than yours. 

That is your challenge.  Day in and day out, you have to accept that in society, until your bank account has grown to the KMAM (Kiss My ASS Mark), you are on par or less than that of the guy who does the same job as you do at work.  It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s also why you know that  you need to be doing more.  Let that thought fuel you to push  yourself to succeed.  If you quit it will all be for nothing, You won’t fail unless you quit.

Being able to separate the worlds are key.  You are no better of a person because you are in Arnold’s World.  Everyone doesn’t want the same things as you do.  It doesn’t make you better than them, and they don’t deserve less respect.  It’s a choice.  Because your mom doesn’t go to the gym, doesn’t mean you don’t respect her less.  We live in the Real World and everyone deserves respect until they un-earn it.  (But in Arnold’s world, YOU ARE BETTER THEN THEM). 

If you are reading this and don’t have a “project” – GET ONE!

Like the great Jim Rohn says,

If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much